Read anything on child development and you’ll see how key play is for children. Play based learning is the way the early years of primary education is taught now. So what can we do to support our children’s learning around the home?Read More
Welcome! I'm Nicola, I encourage mums who are struggling with tough times make their home happy. My husband has Crohn's disease, one of my sons has Down Syndrome and yet - most of the time - our home is a happy place and I'd love to share with you how that looks!
Between daycare, being minded by extended family and then the fact children here start schooling so young, consistency is made more difficult as even if you’re consistent at home (though let’s face it, that’s the pipe dream, not the reality) you have all these different environments doing things slightly different. So how to keep your children's lives as consistent as you can?Read More
Once I googled “showing respect to your toddler” or something similar and was surprised that the most of the first page hits were actually about getting toddlers to show respect to us – by demanding good manners, establishing rules, celebrating diversity and not tolerating rudeness. All good things actually, but I wonder if maybe we aren’t going about that the wrong way round…children learn by watching and copying, and being respectful towards then, treating them with positivity, politeness and a sense of importance is surely the best way to show them how to be respectful themselves?Read More
When Daniel was only a tiny baby we spoke to him like he understood what we were saying. We’d talk to him at nappy changes about what we were doing or explained what doctors were going to do before various tests (blood tests, heart scans, hearing tests). One day, when he was much older, my mother said she’d found it unusual the way we explained everything to Daniel but she could see how it had really helped him and actually was a great way of communicating with babies.Read More
Eek. It's here. The biggie...This is always a sticky subject to get into. People can get very defensive about their discipline methods and can be judgmental of others not doing what they do. At both extremes of the severity spectrum!
I always think that if you have been intentional in your approach though, and know it is well reasoned and right for your family then you have no need to be defensive. I am confident that this is the way for our family to discipline our children. I do however try and discuss the whys of what we do AND the why nots of other discipline methods in order to help explain it to others who may have not thought through their approach. It’s not like I’m trying to convince everyone to do it ‘our’ way but instead provide a reasoned argument for those who may find it useful.Read More
Knowing your children means they’ll be relaxed knowing their parents understand them and what makes them tick, you’ve got their back and know what to push and when. It also means you’ll be more relaxed as you’re not stressed out about this lively child never putting on a show outside of the house or why your kid can be the party king or queen but at home is quiet or even sullen.Read More
With Daniel’s diagnosis ante-natally we set about reading about how children develop, and particularly where the difficulties are for children with Down Syndrome. I found it fascinating. From cognitive development, gross and fine motor skills, to speech and language and even emotional development I realised how much would be beneficial for parents to know, way more than spending hours looking at prams, parents-to-be should be understanding how their children develop.Read More
Having thought about our parenting in an intentional manner, we chose a certain way to bring our children up that – over time – I discovered fell largely under an umbrella term called ‘gentle’ or ‘attachment’ parenting.Read More
Today marks a shift for the last part of this series – thinking about bringing up children in a way that allows them, and us to flourish.
For us, intentional parenting is about putting thought into parenting, not just drifting. Not just following the crowd. Parenting for us has a clear aim and a goal and we make all our family decisions around communication, discipline, parenting babies, play with this in mind.Read More
Don’t the best conversations with people come out over food? When you’ve been sitting eating for hours telling funny stories and opening up about life’s struggles. Our home flourishes when we are hospitable as we learn from others and their life stories.Read More