There is something odd about the final weeks of pregnancy. Every evening you go to bed, kissing your older children goodnight not knowing if everything will be different by the time they wake up and a new sibling has been born. Every morning your husband leaves for work and you go about the daily routine, school runs, tots groups, groceries and wonder when things will kick off and what the logistics are, who do you call and what needs done.Read More
Welcome! I'm Nicola, I encourage mums who are struggling with tough times make their home happy. My husband has Crohn's disease, one of my sons has Down Syndrome and yet - most of the time - our home is a happy place and I'd love to share with you how that looks!
The past few years I’ve stopped setting new year’s resolutions in favour of a word for the year. I’m not great at keeping my resolutions. A word helps me focus in lots of different areas on what’s important.
This year it's slow, here's why....Read More
For us as Christians the countdown to Christmas provides an opportunity to spend time reflecting on why the events of Jesus' birth is so special. Thinking about how He is the culmination of God's plan to save us. And making that intentional is in some ways easier with children as they get so excited about Christmas but also more difficult – as an adult we can just read a devotional or even do a challenge a day. But throw in a few pre-schoolers or young children and it’s hard to find the energy to do something everyday, or even explain it to them effectively. So how do we do an intentional advent in our house?Read More
Santa is just part of the Christmas fun, isn’t he? We don’t resent having grown up with Santa in our homes. But when it came to our first Christmas as parents, we decided we wouldn’t be doing it. It’s a topic that gets discussed frequently enough and we know plenty of parents who also “don’t do Santa”. This is a post looking at some of the reasons behind our decision!Read More
So that's 31 days of flourishing at home DONE! Thank you all for the engagement during the month, it was great hearing how you do your laundry, stories of you sitting down with your husbands and chatting about your kids' personalities, and my favourite, clearing out medicines that went out of date in 2003!
I've certainly found being intentional this year about flourishing has helped me think about where I'm not and that means I at least know what I'm aiming for. Hopefully this series has helped you do the same.Read More
I’m going to confess something. When we got our antenatal diagnosis of Down Syndrome in my first pregnancy, I think I saw the baby as a bit of a project. I was willing to put the hard work in to ensuring he was able to get as far as possible in life. Not for my credit, but to ensure as many doors were open to him when he was older.
But then I realised I didn't need to. And we've been flourishing even more since that happened!Read More
Our marriage is far from perfect. In fact, I’m certain there is no such thing as the perfect marriage. Yet we’ve managed to survive pretty well, if not actually flourish, most of the last almost ten years despite having some pretty rough times.
I mentioned earlier in the series that communication is one of those to-go classic pieces of marriage advice at hen parties. Things like “Make sure you keep communicating” and “Don’t go to bed on an argument”. Good tips (though sometimes I do just head off to bed without resolving something. I’m not great with conflict) but here are some things that I’ve found useful, which I’m hoping may be useful for others too…!Read More
We’re nearing the end of this series and yesterday in particular I felt like this has made me sound like I’ve got this whole stay at home mum thing together. I don’t. I really don’t.
In fact, the main reason for starting this blog was to encourage other mums who are struggling. So doing a whole series on our home flourishing has to end with some honest truths. I am struggling.Read More
Read anything on child development and you’ll see how key play is for children. Play based learning is the way the early years of primary education is taught now. So what can we do to support our children’s learning around the home?Read More
Between daycare, being minded by extended family and then the fact children here start schooling so young, consistency is made more difficult as even if you’re consistent at home (though let’s face it, that’s the pipe dream, not the reality) you have all these different environments doing things slightly different. So how to keep your children's lives as consistent as you can?Read More